Save Miss America

For anyone who knows me, you know I was Miss Oklahoma in 1983. When you say? The year Vanessa Williams won. 34 years ago!

Who cares right? Well, I do for one! And after the craziest 24-hour news cycle I’ve seen since Vanessa Williams stepped down as Miss America I felt compelled to share my thoughts which are a bit longer than the new 240 character twitter response.

I woke up Friday morning at 5am and as usual over coffee checked my Facebook page! I was stunned! Yashar Ali, who wrote the Huffington Post article, had opened up the beast inside of me. And from what I was seeing on my Facebook timeline, in the many former Miss America’s, former State title holders, participants in the pageant, volunteers, directors and well just fans as well!

The immediate outrage was evident! As I read the entire article the more incensed I became.

But it’s more than that! It was like I was defending a big part of my life! I grew up competing in pageants and my ultimate dream as a child was to compete for Miss America.

Not unlike a kid who wants to play football or go to the Olympics. For me, this was the path I chose. And I loved every minute of it.

As I watched the #sisterhood take over yesterday I was filled with pride and admiration! Unless you have competed in the Miss America program or volunteered or been a fan, maybe you can’t understand the #outrage.

But for those of us MAO fans, it was devastating. And to hear and read the vile things being said by the CEO Sam Haskell about previous winners was more than I could take!

I am not personal friends with former Miss America’s, Mallory Hagan, Kate Shindle, Gretchen Carlson or Betty Cantrell but #thesisterhoodisreal. I was heartsick.

It’s easy to sit at home on your computer and tap out responses about Miss America not being relevant anymore. Those that can’t get past beautiful, intelligent women competing against each other in a pageant. But Miss America is NOT just a pageant. It’s a lifetime of service, of friendships, of empowerment. A sorority of women that ARE changing the world! And if you don’t believe that while don’t you read a few articles on Gretchen Carlson!

Why do you think we are in this #metoo environment? Because strong women are speaking out! It’s time for new Leadership at the Miss America Organization. They know it and we know it! We will not be silenced. We will not sashay off in our tiaras.

I urge you to do a little research about the Miss America program before just tweeting out a simple response. I for one know what this pageant has meant to me for over 34 years! I have witnessed the explosion of women gaining strength! And I take pride in my association with the Miss America program.

Be strong my sisterhood! I stand with you!

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I’m not sure I had the vocabulary to be Miss America

Well another Miss America has come and gone! I was so blessed to attend the pageant this year. I competed in 1983 and had not been back to the pageant for over 30 years. Yes, I’m old!

Congrats to Cara Mund, Miss North Dakota for being the first Miss America from her state!

Of course I was there cheering for Miss Oklahoma Triana Browne! She looked lovely all week.

I understand first hand what it is like to have great expectations not match the outcome but she represented the state of Oklahoma in a way I’m not sure I ever did! I realized after watching these girls and listening to them speak about current events, their platforms, even the crazy questions thrown at them that I don’t think I had the vocabulary to be Miss America!

It is so impressive to see these girls not only shine in their evening gown, swimsuit and talent but we don’t really get to know them until they speak. Imagine being asked what is the most overrated thing right now. I paraphrase. My sarcastic sense of humor was like OMG Donald Trump! Right! Kevin Durant! Ohio State! Lol. (BoomerSooner)

Miss North Dakota was asked about the Paris Climate agreement. Miss Texas was asked about white supremacists in Charlottesville! Can you imagine being put on the spot in front of millions! I was just so proud..so f*cking proud!

Like I said, I don’t have the vocabulary to be Miss America!

See you next year!

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Miss America 2017

It’s Miss America week! I’m so excited to be going back to Atlantic City after over 30 years since I competed!

I’m taking my wife! Yes, times they have changed lol!

I can’t wait to see you all there! This remains the best part of my life!

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Yes, I Can….cook Cauliflower Pizza!


Ok so I asked my friends on Facebook if they ever made cauliflower pizza crust.  Secretly meaning, do you have a Pinterest recipe. Lol

 Since most people enthusiastically replied oh yes I made it, but did not supply recipe I looked online and did a little picking and choosing.

Ingredients

1 box of cauliflower rice (what happens naturally when you use a food processor)

1 egg

1/2 of a mozarella cheese ball

A handful of big slized parmassean cheese

Spices

Dried basil

Dried Oregano

Siraccha pepper

Red pepper flakes

Garlic

Garlic powder

Put cauliflower in a bowl and microwave for 5 min.  Make sure you use a potholder to take it out or you will burn your fingers!  đŸ˜‰ or you could use a microwave safe bowl if you like that sort of thing!

Here comes the tricky part, the cauliflower becomes very watery when you cook it so you are supposed to put it on a paper towel and squeeze it.  I recommend putting the cauliflower in the fridge for 15 minutes after microwaving to avoid 3rd degree burns.

It took practically a half a roll of paper towels to squeeze the water out.  It works great then splits and all your cauliflower starts escaping.  So after I lost some I put a strainer under it in case that happened again!

I’m sure I could have squeezed some more but I was hungry and wanted to get this experiment going.

In a separate bowl, or plastic carry out container from your favorite take out place, don’t judge….

Combine mozzarella, parmasean, egg (beaten) or it doesn’t work very well, and add your spices then pour your cauliflower in. 

Now for the messy stuff, pretend your making meatloaf and just start squeezing it all together.

Apparently you need parchment paper to put this on so tear off a sheet and put it on your baking sheet, or if you don’t have a baking sheet use the broiler pan like I did.  Cost with some sort of spray then put your pizza dough right in the middle and start smashing it down.  I made a circle because I don’t like rectangle pizza.

Bake in oven 400 for 15 minutes.  I ended up cooking mine about 3 min more and this will be the place you have to decide how crisp you like it.

Bring it out add your toppings.  I took a little pizza sauce, mozzarella  and then my pepperoni and then baker for another 15 minutes and viola!

Cauliflower pepperoni pizza!

It’s not like real crust but if you are craving pizza and trying to avoid the crust this does very nicely!

Try it and let me know!  

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Miss America Lottery isn’t for wimps like me

Wow!  This was my first time to watch the Miss America lottery picks online live!  Of course as a former Miss Oklahoma I am watching for her placement!

I watched and I watched and it started to feel like waiting for my Sooners to win a national championship!

I am picturing that little wire frame ball where bingo like balls with the girls state titles are on it.  And I was thinking man, Miss Oklahoma’s ball has extra weight so that it won’t pop in that little spot so I can tell bingo!

In the end she finally got to pick.  She will be the #6 contestant on her night.  

Really does it matter?  If all things are even?  The cream always rises to the top right?

But it was nerve wracking and I had to pop open a bottle of Pinot noir to get thru it!  Lol

Good luck to all the contestants!  I can’t wait to see you in the parade!

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Unsolicited advice from a former Miss America contestant 

Omg I have been away from the Miss America Pageant for way too long. I was lucky enough to be invited to judge Miss Oklahoma and have watched the Miss Arkansas, Miss Tennessee and Miss Texas pageants online! Yes, I have no life but that’s not important!

As a former judge I am not able to reach out to contestants so maybe I can make a blanket statement that won’t get me in trouble!

Swimsuit:  Slow down. I appreciate the confidence displayed in swimsuit but pace yourselves. If you are crossing the stage in three steps you might need to add a few steps to that walk! You all look gorgeous but just slow down!

And please please please lose those platform shoes! It is so distracting! You don’t need them to feel beautiful! Do you?  

Let me give you the best advice I can! You need to impress the judges so if you don’t look at them you are not impressing them!  

Talent: do something you are passionate about but, if you are not the best singer, dancer, instrumentalist, pick a song that will show your personality!

On stage question: breathe. Don’t anticipate the answer to the question before it is finished. Once it is take a moment to think about what you want to say. We are all pulling for you! There is no right or wrong answer! Remember that! You are expressing your opinion so that should be easy right? Just pretend you are talking with friends and in reality you are!

Interview:  be prepared! You don’t have to know everything but do know your state that you represent! Tell me something interesting! That will make me remember you!

If I were able to talk to you that’s what I would say! lol hopefully I won’t get banned for this!

Keep smiling and keep being you!

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Being anti-social in a social world

God, I really hate going out!  Lol!  

The effort it takes for me to get motivated to go to a party!  Yes, of course it’s nice to see old friends and meet new ones.  But…..

I am much more social out here in cyberville.  I pretend you laugh at my jokes!  You can make me feel good about a picture I post.  I can seem informed.  

But then I attend a party and realize how little I’ve accomplished!  How I absolutely no nothing about anything real lol.   Surrounded by intelligent, beautiful woman.  I’m inspired.  

And then I’m ready to hide back here, behind my keyboard on my iphone.  And share pictures of my dogs.  Drink wine and watch Netflix.

So I’m just going to keep living the dream!

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Pageant 101 to my lesbian friends

Me trying to explain my joy of pageants to lesbians.

Whenever my experience in pageants gets brought up in conversation i sometimes feel like a salmon swimming up stream.

Of course, most of my friends are gay and many have a negative impression of pageants.

My first comeback is always you have to be in it to understand! But I try to explain.

I told my story of judging Miss Oklahoma after 33 years. Of course they are interested! But then a child cries or someone needs a cocktail and I get sidetracked lol.

It is interesting to say the least being a pageant girl amongst gay friends. Boys I’m not talking about you! You get it! But women! Why is it so hard to understand? Yes we have to get on stage in a swimsuit but it’s not about that, it’s about being fit! Living a healthy lifestyle! You should get that! Most of you rode bikes to the party!

Most of you stood in front of the mirror and applied makeup. Put an outfit together. Well I know I spent time planning what I would wear.  

Do you really want to know what it means to compete for Miss America or are you just judging me on a totally different score card?

One person said social media was evil and that even on a professional site unless we did the same thing she would not accept my connection.

Wtf? Seriously? Isn’t it all about connections and helping each other achieve?

My friends for over 20 years have always called me Miss Oklahoma! Wow so proud! I am and will always be a pageant girl! So the next time you see me at a cocktail party, don’t ask me about Miss America unless you have time to sit and listen. It’s not about me! It’s about a pageant that enables young women to attain scholarships #1, but more than that it is the reason I am who I am today! So if you dismiss the pageant you dismiss me!

We all have different ways to make history, to break barriers. I would just ask you to think before you speak the next time you want to talk about pageants. Be prepared for a long answer!

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It’s All About Making people smile

When I got Max and Myles it was all about what I needed. I had lost my boy Jackson to cancer and I was hurting!  

Yorkie love
My intention was to just get Max but the breeder was leaving town and had Myles left! What could I do? 

Today marks one year since these two brought a smile back to my heart!

Lilo had two new little brothers! And there was the sound of paws pitter pattering all over the hardwoods.

We cheered for the Oklahoma Sooners!

Boomer Sooner

And the Dallas Cowboys!

Cowboy love
And we anxiously waited to see if Santa Claus would find us at the beach!

Waiting on Santa
We gave shout outs on St. Patrick’s day!

Happy St. Patrick's Day!
And we traveled all the way to Oklahoma to attend the Miss Oklahoma Pageant. Well they didn’t actually attend the pageant but they did spend a lot of time partying in the hospitality room!
Yes, there was a lot of wine….but the best treat was getting their picture taken with the reigning Miss Oklahoma Sarah Klein.

 Sarah Klein Miss Oklahoma
These two have been having a ball and making people smile…and isn’t that what it’s all about?

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Not your mother’s Miss America Pageant

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Miss America Vanessa Williams and Trelynda Kerr Miss Oklahoma

I recently judged the Miss Oklahoma Pageant. Wow, 34 years after I won the title of Miss Oklahoma 1983!

A lot has changed! This is not your mother’s Miss America Pageant.  These girls are on a job interview! They all are required to have a platform ( I thought they meant the shoes, since they all wear them).

But that deserves a post all in its own lol.

Seriously though, these women are so fortunate to have this requirement as it helps them develop into fantastic human beings!

I laughed with some of the other judges about the platform because it was not a requirement back in my day! Did I just say that? Back in my day we wore 5 inch heals with all of our weight on the ball of our foot! Does that count as “oldtimer” speak? I digress!

The point is, these woman have a platform that they believe in! Something they can evangelize their entire year and beyond! A purpose! That’s what I’m talking about! Miss America is no longer just about winning the title and hopefully launching a career but actually about finding your purpose! Can you imagine? I’ve spent the last 34 years trying to find my purpose!

I’m so proud of each and every girl that has the guts to compete in pageants! And yes boys and feminists out there! It does take guts!

It’s a nerve wracking process! But so rewarding, with scholarships, life long friendships, the ability to speak publicly about the town, state and cause that they hold dear!

So before you turn the dial when you see the Miss America Pageant coming on, take a moment to watch and admire the effort and learn about the organization. Who knows you may just want to participate yourself!  

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